Bit of a bitty post this morning.
Firstly I wanted to draw attention to this blog post Adding not taking away written by @mrsb_ldn who is a runner. It’s such a great idea, accentuate the positive. You are adding good things to your life, not, necessarily taking bad things away. I think mentally this method is much more likely to work.
In January I did take something bad away, I gave up drinking. It was my husbands idea, let’s do dry January he said, ok I said. By the end of January I was converted and he was gasping for a beer.
I can’t believe the difference it has made in the way I feel. I would never class myself as a heavy drinker, I had one small glass of white wine a night which would stretch to 2 glasses on a Friday or a Saturday. I know I have low tolerance to booze anyway (anymore than 3 glasses of wine would give me a hangover).
This is what I found when I gave up wine. I slept better. I love my sleep. Love it. I need 8 hours not to be cranky. 8 hours uninterrupted with a 3yr old, 5yr old and my bladder the size of a goldfish doesn’t happen very often. Since giving up booze I sleep better when I do sleep and I’m not as tired the next day even if I am woken half a dozen times, even if I go to bed later than my usual 10pm. I can’t quite describe the difference this has made to my life.
Alcohol tends to have a depressive effect on me. Not at the time but the next day if I have had one too many (i.e. 3 glasses) then I tend to feel tired, depressed and withdrawn. Problems seem bigger, annoying children seem even more annoying. So I’m not missing that at all.
There are many jokes and memes about 6/7pm, and when the kids are in bed over drinking alcohol and having 1 glass a night feels the norm. Of course you also get the articles telling us that wine can be good for you (I don’t drink red). However I am also lucky as a 38 year old if I want to say no thanks to a glass of wine I might get a raised eyebrow but I don’t get peer pressured into having just the one. I don’t get called a party pooper. I do get called designated driver.
Despite not being a heavy drinker (most weeks I wouldn’t have gone above the recommended weekly safe limit) alcohol was impacting my life, how I viewed my life. I’ve not totally foresaken booze, I’ve drunk maybe 5 times since end of Jan. Mostly half glass of wine before thinking why am I doing this? and switching to grapefruit squash (yeah there are not a lot of adult sounding alternatives to booze). Right now I don’t see a point where I will go back to regular consumption (unless I win the lottery and can afford to drink champagne for breakfast, then all bets are off).
This blog post didn’t go anywhere near what I was going to cover today, I was going to start talking about positivity in your life and a mantra I heard this weekend that I really liked. Oh well, that’s what blogs are for
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